Staying Single

Maybe (maybe? heh), maybe I read too much Craig's List. I don't consider it art, but I have to ask the rhetorical question of whether or not art imitates life. I mean, Craig's List personals aren't a true reflection of the dating pool, are they? If that's the case, then there are a ton of promiscuous gay men, almost an equal amount of cheating men, most of the rest of the men only wanting sex or for whom sex is a lynchpin to a relationship, and an infinitesimally small section that might actually want a real relationship. Reading CL has been a study in revulsion. And what's sad? From what I gather, the women are almost the same way, except that they are not predatory like the men - they just tend to be gold-diggers. It's so pathetic. Most of the guys just want a "friends with benefits" relationship. They want to have sex, and maybe hang out with you later. This one guy told this girl that he needed to have sex with her because he'd be "distracted" until then and could deal with any feelings for her later. WTF? What bullshit. It makes me appreciate being single and unattached. I'm not opposed to the thought of marriage in general - I am opposed, however, to the thought of the dating pool being such a cesspool. Good God. I am not desperate. Oh hell no, I am not desperate. But I'm not settling for shit, either. I would rather be alone than hook up with some prick who doesn't want to be in my life but for the possibly exclusive use of my vagina. If I'm going to be with someone, it's because he wants to be in my life and wants me to be in his life for the right reasons. He doesn't need to have sex with me and then deal with whatever feelings he may have (because the truth is that if it works that way for him, then whatever other feelings he may have are tantamount to nothing). He likes me because I am caring, giving, fun to be around, intellectually stimulating, and intuitive to his needs, not because of any sexual performance. Realizing just how nasty and selfish the dating pool is in general actually makes it easier to be alone. I'm open to finding a wonderful guy who will meet my needs, but I am not sweating it. If it is going to happen, it will happen. It would be nice if it happened sooner rather than later, but I'm not holding my breath! Viva the single life!