To enable or not to enable?

So here is my new dilemma - how does a single gal be friends with married men? Let me clarify that: how does a single gal be friends with married men that want to flirt a little? I'm trying very hard to be a little egalitarian about this. A couple of weeks ago, I had posted on CL under the strictly platonic section looking for people (well, guys) to play pool. I got a good handful of responses. I eventually met up with the guy from Leesburg that I previously mentioned. But I did continue to receive responses to the ad by people that wished they hadn't missed it earlier, which is nice. But one of these responses is from a married guy that wants to flirt a bit. I am not comfortable with this. On the one hand, I have no problem with a guy being married and just being his friend. I have guy friends that are married. I've met their wives, been to their weddings, hung out with no problems. But this guy's wife is supposedly possessive and jealous if he makes female friends, so he doesn't want to have an open friendship with me. The jealous thing is not my problem. That is his problem. My problem is, do I want to be friends with a guy that I know is allowing himself to feel something he probably shouldn't be feeling? Is this a dumb question? I know what it feels like to be cheated on. I would not like to be the reason why someone else is cheated on. But at the same time, I feel that any good relationship should be able to withstand having friends of the opposite sex that are just that - friends. I suppose that, again, that's his problem. I don't want to race to the 'adultery' conclusion. But I am a little creeped out right now because I know he wants to keep any friendship with me on the down low, instead of growing a pair and allowing me to meet his wife and conduct the friendship in an open way. But then, he's apparently Indian or something South Asian/Middle Eastern (from his name) and his wife may be that way too, so I don't know what kind of cultural baggage I may be dealing with. I do not wish to be the source of temptation. I feel ready to cut the conversation off before it goes any further because I don't like the secret relationship, and I don't like the fact that he wants to flirt with me, even though he knows that I have no intention of flirting back. It just doesn't feel right, and I want to do what is right. But the side of me that believes in equality makes me hesitate. Hence this entry. I don't know what I'm going to do. I have yet to answer his latest email, and part of me really doesn't want to. Am I really making much ado about nothing?